Jacqueline Laurenzi Jacqueline Laurenzi

He's Not the Same Since the Baby, and He Doesn't Have the Words for Why

If your relationship feels different since the baby but you can't quite name why, this one's for you. New fathers go through their own identity shift after having a baby, one that almost nobody talks about, and it shows up as distance, short answers, and a partner who seems to have checked out. He hasn't. He just was never given the words. Here's what's actually happening, and what you can do about it.

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Jacqueline Laurenzi Jacqueline Laurenzi

The Pursuer-Withdrawer Cycle After Baby: Are You “Too Much” or “Too Cold”?

You reach. They go quiet. You push. They pull further away. If this fight keeps showing up since the baby arrived, here's the truth: neither of you is the villain of the story. Let's talk about what's actually happening underneath the pursuer-withdrawer cycle, and why naming your own role is the first real step out of it.

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Jacqueline Laurenzi Jacqueline Laurenzi

The Relationship Pattern Behind Your Recurring Fights

If you keep having the same fight no matter how many times you resolve it, something deeper is running underneath it. This post breaks down the pursue-withdraw cycle, why it hits hardest when you have young children, and what you can actually do about it, starting tonight.

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Jacqueline Laurenzi Jacqueline Laurenzi

The Mental Load Conversation You Have Not Tried Yet

Most couples who come to me for therapy are not fighting about the dishes. They are fighting about something much harder to name. In this piece, I am unpacking what is really happening underneath the mental load conversation, why the most common response makes things worse, and the one question that can change everything.

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Jacqueline Laurenzi Jacqueline Laurenzi

Conversations to Have Before Baby Arrives

Most couples spend months preparing for the baby and almost nothing preparing for each other. Research shows that the couples who navigate the first year best are the ones who went in prepared. These four conversations are the place to start.

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Why Pregnancy Can Make You Resent Your Partner

Pregnancy resentment is real, it is common, and it makes complete sense when you understand what is actually happening. In this post I break down exactly why pregnancy can bring up such uncomfortable feelings toward your partner, what is normal, what is worth paying attention to, and how to tell the difference.

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